Have you ever said something that you now realize was nothing like what your heart or thoughts really wanted to say or what you thought in your head came out sounding all wrong? Now you wish you could grab those words back, Sometimes they come out sounding down right stupid or maybe even rude possibly mean? Your intentions may have been anything but rude, mean, or stupid. But now you don't have a clue how to fix it. Even claiming that wasn't your intent you want to crawl into the nearest crevice and hide. I have thought a lot about intent for some time now. Having smaller kids I have tried to always ask when they get hurt whether it is their feelings or physically, what was the other child's intention? Did they say or do something to be mean or was it an accident?
The same methods could be applied to adults. I know for me, I have said things the wrong way. I believe that my dyslexic brain processes things a little backwards and even different. I send messages and realize that even my sentence structure isn't often not the best way and sometimes difficult for others to understand if I don't take the time to scrutinize over each and every word and sometimes it is still not right. I have always loved my friends and have been so appreciative when they like me for me and all of my mistakes. My intention towards my friends and most people is often good. That doesn't mean I say things the correct way and I care about my friends.
Today I was watching a talk show and they criticized Madonna for her appearance and what she said when she gave a speech about how Aretha Franklin influenced her life. My thoughts were, I don't believe Madonna meant for her speech to come off as rude or her talking too much about herself and not enough about Aretha Franklin. It is easy for all of us to criticize and I know I have been just as guilty but we could all benefit from asking people what their intention about what they said or did was. Our perspective may change. That is the other thing with intention, perspective. We all have a certain perspective on things. Sometimes we could all do with a dose of others perspective. Look at these tweets from famous people that get people all upset. Most of these people have no ill intent and are horrified by peoples reactions. They just see something from a different perspective. Those sharing something personal aren't all wrong until some person decides to be critical and or sees something from a different perspective. They mutilate the poor person who may have just shared a personal thought or picture with good intentions not expecting to be ripped apart and being black balled. We all make mistakes but expect everyone to be perfect. It is true not everyone has good intentions and there are plenty of passive aggressive people. We know who those people are in our lives. However we don't know all these famous people or those on the internet who someone maybe tearing apart. It would be great if we showed a little compassion when we want to criticize and ask ourselves if we really think that person was trying to be mean or offensive. I know that I can be down right mean when I mean to and I am not usually passive aggressive. I just get aggressive and I often warn those who my aggression is going to affect. Like my husband. If he keeps throwing things away that I have put aside for a future dates use. I tell him I will just buy it again but possibly in multiples and that it will come out of his paycheck. He doesn't like that and it makes him think about throwing something away. He asks more than he used to before throwing things away because I have made good on my aggression. The point here is that I plan to try and implement more compassion as I have been on the side of foot and mouth and want to run and hide while crying my eyes out. I love most people and only have the best of intentions and it kills me that someone would think ill of me or misunderstand my intent. I know my writing skills lack please forgive.
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